Identity, in Psychology relates to self-image, self-esteem, and individuality.
Identity encompasses the memories, experiences, values, relationships, and beliefs that create the sense of self. In short, it’s an understanding of who we are and who we can become. Identity, the topic that I love speaking about and a pet project for years. The more I study it, the more I am intrigued and enamoured by it. According to me, we do not give it due respect. We don’t dwell on it as much as we should. If we do, we will figure out the secrets to our happiness, success and wellbeing. Instead, we look everywhere but deep within. Over the years, I have spoken to countless people trying to understand who they think they are and this is what I have found:
- We have fuzzy images of who we are. We can describe others but we struggle to describe ourselves. Are we being too vain or too modest? We often don’t know.
- Our identity is made up of what we have been told by our parents, society & peers. Mostly, the labels we were given when young, stick the most. The labels are who we become.
- Sometimes, we fool ourselves in to believing that we are the image that we have created on social media. We end up believing that we are our LinkedIn, FB or Instagram Profile. Sometimes, we believe that we are the description in our Key Note Speaker profile. Are we really?
What constitutes the true self? Have we really thought about it? Unless we know this and are able to extract the true self away from the identity that we have built because of parental, societal or peer pressure, we will continue to chase phantom happiness, wrong goals and mismatched life style.
Think about it.